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Nonconformity FTW

What is true dissent? Why does it exist? Dissent exists because of a disconnection. A disconnected feeling from your true self, your essence.

You do the things. All the things. The things they told you, but there is still lack and void and apathy. So you do more things to feel fulfilled (or numb yourself from yourself), but the dissent is still running through your veins. It’s just off. You go to bed unsure. Is this really what life is? You know it’s not because you’ve had these sparkling moments of clarity, unity or connection. They don’t come often, but they come. When you’re sipping coffee that is the perfect temperature. When you’re surrounded by breath-taking nature. When you hear your favorite song and see your soulmate across the room. When you look into a baby’s eyes and see the whole universe staring back at you.

These external sources are merely extensions of our true perfect nature, and our grand human ability to create an amazing experience for ourself in this life. 

Those tiny moments fade and we come back to friction with those in power—which could be work, family, ex-family or even your own learned negative patterns of thinking. Those in power did not create the structures of the current state of civilization because they were so in touch with their essence and true nature and goodness. They created it from greed, from fear, from lack of awareness…and it worked for a while. 

But a revolution is coming from the most oppressed and most enlightened: black women, indigenous women, brown women, yellow women, trans women, femmes, womxn, and white women who are allies—to bring awareness, love and ultimately humanity back to us all. Only us as womxn—nature’s nurturers—can bring the healing.

You don’t necessarily need to be part of the larger revolution to be a non-conformist that shakes up white supremacist hetero-patriarchy.

You can be girl, who grew up in an aimless environment, with lack of guidance, and no self-identity, but still full of love and curiosity.

You can be a designer / artist trying to find your voice and vision while being inspired by the plethora of beauty and depth around you and understanding that the world isn’t overfilled with meaningless art, but lacking art from your unique perspective.

You can be a fun, highly supportive, agreeable mom that smiles at other moms without judgement, in the grocery store during a toddler tantrum so she doesn’t feel so alone.

The powers that be have structured society in a way where competition and doubt weigh so heavily on our daily psyche that we forget about each other’s humanity—except for a few mere moments throughout the day, week or month.

We can all be loving nonconformists by confronting these thoughts we have about our fellow humans, ourselves and the system by simply focusing on what doesn’t align with us—either physically or mentally—and do small things to break them down. 

By becoming aware of, and questioning traditional systemic / cultural / religious / conditioned structures, you’ve already begun.

Then it’s just a matter of one small action. Even if that action is simply admitting to yourself that you are part of something that doesn’t align with your true self. It’s that small. Do it, and you’ll begin your path to truly loving not only yourself, but all humans—and then will come the incessant, overwhelming urge to not conform—for the sake of unification and not competition—as we’ve all been conditioned to do.

You can do it. I am doing it. I see you and I love you. On your good days and your bad days, but especially your bad days.

Feeling the connection? Let’s see if it’s mutual.
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